i stumbled upon an extremely eye opening website the other day, i believe it is necessary to pass it on – the pictures gave me goosebumps, i would have posted them on here, however they are too graphic, take that as a warning yet do yourself a favor – check out the link -> The Decade in Pictures
a lot has been going on in my life recently, i’m rather stressed out about finals – although i’ve got my fingers crossed that i have nothing to worry about, i’m a bit anxious to get them over with – my worst one, tomorrow, psych stats – eeek
i’ve got to remember that they’re only exams, not the end of the world, i’ll be fine :)
.. it’s a little something new i’m working on & i’m pretty excited about it – the no cursing thing is hard for me, but i’m trying.. and the gym membership shall be official hopefully by wednesday because my last final is tuesday
i came across an extremely inspiring artist a few days ago, i introduce ran hwang
“My immense wall installations are extremely time consuming and repetitive manual work. This is a form of meditative practice that helps me to find inner peace. By hammering thousands of pins into a wall, I discover significance of existence. “
something happened this week
hypothetical situation: girl is dating guy – guy loves girl – – girl loves guy – guy stops talking to girl – gives no reason – month passes – guy comes back – begs back for girl – girl is torn.
we all know we deserve the best of the best – right? all bullshit aside, we don’t want to play games with the one we believe we love – games are for those of 13 and under, people should stick to that, especially when it comes to the love game, its overrated
its a scary thought to have to decide whether you forgive or forget – or neither.
we have about three couples that have shared past experiences with a few members on staff at the restaurant, their ages range from 50 – 80
i believe they are all married, although i could be wrong – their situation in 2010 – they are seeing eachother behind their current partner’s back
over twenty years ago, they say that they were eachother’s first love.. they were perfect together – and then something happened, they had obstacles in the way – they couldn’t be together, so they moved on
they got married to other people – had kids, had great lives – however they can’t help but keep seeing eachother – even after so many years.
i’m so scared of that.
to marry someone and love that person – yet love somebody else, so much more
people mess up – sometimes we don’t do what we’re supposed to, sometimes we take advantage of eachother, when is enough – really enough?
how do we determine that we should give up on someone and move on or forgive them and try again?
from Psychology Today
Tips on how to build a healthy love life with your spouse.
By Hara Estroff Marano, published on October 01, 2004 – last reviewed on November 19, 2010
Never go to sleep angry. Try a little tenderness.
Apologize, apologize, apologize. Anyone can make a mistake. Repair attempts are crucial—highly predictive of marital happiness. They can be clumsy or funny, even sarcastic—but willingness to make up after an argument is central to every happy marriage.
Some dependency is good, but complete dependency on a partner for all one’s needs is an invitation to unhappiness for both partners. We’re all dependent to a degree—on friends, mentors, spouses. This is true of men as well as women.
Maintain self-respect and self-esteem. It’s easier for someone to like you and to be around you when you like yourself.
Research has shown that the more roles people fill, the more sources of self-esteem they have. Meaningful work—paid or volunteer—has long been one of the most important ways to exercise and fortify a sense of self.
Enrich your relationship by bringing into it new interests from outside the relationship. The more passions in life that you have and share, the richer your relationship will be. It is unrealistic to expect one person to meet all of your needs in life.
Cooperate, cooperate, cooperate. Share responsibilities. Relationships work ONLY when they are two-way streets, with much give and take.
Stay open to spontaneity.
Maintain your energy. Stay healthy.
Recognize that all relationships have their ups and downs and do not ride at a continuous high all the time. Working together through the hard times will make the relationship stronger.
Make good sense of a bad relationship by examining it as a reflection of your beliefs about yourself. Don’t just run away from a bad relationship; you’ll only repeat it with the next partner. Use it as a mirror to look at yourself, to understand what in you is creating this relationship. Change yourself before you change your relationship.
Understand that love is not an absolute, not a limited commodity that you’re in of or out of. It’s a feeling that ebbs and flows depending on how you treat each other. If you learn new ways to interact, the feelings can come flowing back, often stronger than before.